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The Sacred Practice of Saying ‘No’

Last week I wrote about integrity and I felt like I left something out: being a person of integrity isn’t just about what you do. It’s also about what you don’t do.  I’ve had a few conversations lately with people who feel like their friends only show up when they need something. They’re dissatisfied with…

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Being Honest About Your Weaknesses (Even When It Hurts)

Have you ever worried what would happen if you had to be honest about your imperfections? Do you feel like life is sometimes a Jenga tower, balanced on some of your strengths with each weakness only precariously holding up the blocks above them? Do you acknowledge your weaknesses or do you prefer to pretend like…

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You’re Not Failing, You’re Just Overwhelmed

How do you get anything done if everything has to get done?I mean, I love a good list. I’m great at organizing my thoughts. I’m even getting really good at delegating.But where do you start when your to do list is longer than Santa’s? Someone once told me you can only reasonably expect yourself to…

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For When You Feel Like a Failure

I distinctly remember sitting in counseling one day, frustrated with myself. I’d only been a solo parent for a few years and was struggling to juggle the responsibilities that come with parenting, keeping home functional and people fed, and giving myself and kids the time and space to process everything we’d just experienced. In the…

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It Felt Like My Faith Was Part of the Problem

This post was originally published on incourage.me. I had gotten my two kids and myself dressed for church and finished filling two huge cookie jars for the church coffee hour. Other than the presence of some more-than-usual tension in my chest, I would’ve thought it was any other Sunday morning. But then, everything went wrong….

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4 Mantras For When I’m Overwhelmed

If life is really hard for you right now, I wish I could reach through the screen and give you a giant hug. Since I can’t, I wrote down my 4 Mantras For When I’m Overwhelmed; you can print it out and hang it where you’ll see it often so you can be reminded that…

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10 Ways To Prepare For The Next Hard Thing

At this point in my life I have experienced more loss and hardship than most. And I’ve learned to accept that there will still be hard things to come. Sometimes people tell me I’ve had more than my fair share of suffering.  Maybe that’s true, but it’s not comforting. Because there isn’t a suffering quotient….

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15 Questions To Ask When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

15 Questions To Ask When You're Feeling Overwhelmed | BeckyLMcCoy.com

I ran to my room, flopped down on the bed and screamed into my pillow. I don’t even remember what triggered it, but in that moment, I knew I was overwhelmed to my breaking point and almost past the point of no return. I needed a major intervention or I was going to fall face…

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Brave is a Choice

I’m not exaggerating when I say my life feels more like a Lifetime movie than reality. My dad died eight hours after giving birth to my first kid. My husband battled one kind of cancer the year we were engaged and died from another kind a month before our kid number two was born. I…

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When You’re Feeling the Damage of Burnout

Until recently, I thought burnout was a normal part of life. I had never even thought there could be a life without burnout. I would stoically push through stress and challenges until I crashed. Then I’d rest and recover only to do it all again. I’ve been learning a different kind of living in the…

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