Dear New Mom: Grief
When doubts filled my mind, your comfort gave me renewed hope and cheer. (Psalm 94:19)
I can’t be the only new mom who has wrestled with grief. Grief takes on many different shapes and sizes; it’s more than just the loss of a parent. It could be the loss of a child’s health, moving to a new place, or the transition from working full-time outside the home. Being a new mom is hard.
For me, the most difficult part of the new mom grieving process is all the little things. Some days, the grief is so overwhelming that the mundane tasks are the most insurmountable.
New Mom, encourage you to hang on. For each dark, sad day there are many more sunny days ahead. I had a dream last night that my dad was standing with me when Caleb said his first words. It’s sad to think he’ll never hear them, but I was comforted at the thought that Caleb will still have first words.
If I were to fly away on the wings of the dawn, and settle down on the other side of the sea, even there your hand would guide me, your right hand would grab hold of me. If I were to say, “Certainly the darkness will cover me, and the light will turn to night all around me,” even the darkness is not too dark for you to see, and the night is as bright as day; darkness and light are the same to you. (Psalm 139:9-12)
I am comforted to know that no matter how dark my grief may be, how long the nights may feel, or how ear-piercing the baby’s screams are, God is there to comfort me. That last statement may leave you rolling your eyes, but my life is evidence to God’s presence. I have survived the loss of important people in my life, life going in a direction I never wanted it to, and stressful circumstances that seemed debilitating at the time. I can’t say I came through unscathed, but I came through it all a better version of myself. I feel the the roots of my soul are more deeply secured. I have hope that the next seasons of grief will be different; they’ll always come and they’ll never be easy, but I like to think with each one, I am more equipped to deal with the next.
So, for now, I will trust my Comforter and fold laundry.
So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you! Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised. (Hebrews 10:35, 36)
Yet I am confident I will see the Lord’s goodness while I am here in the land of the living. (Psalm 27:13)
Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. (Psalm 55:22a)