Dear New Mom: The Weight
If you fall into a pond of carp you will be hickied to death. (Ken Davis)
You’ll also get a lot of hickies if you hold Caleb too long; he has this misconception that my chin was created for him to suck on.
Dear New Mom, the above statements are completely unrelated to my letter, but I always feel more comfortable dealing with difficult topics with humor 🙂
New mom, this postpartum wait for the weight to disappear is one of the hardest parts of this mamahood thing. Just as I expected, my body is particularly gifted in growing at the sight of anything tasty and extremely stubborn in returning to it’s “normal” state. I know you hear me on that one. Now that the little man is 5 months old, it’s time to get serious.
For the first 3 months we were in Connecticut, mourning the loss of my dad. I could not handle the stress of developing the discipline needed to get my butt moving (in the dead of New England winter). I did alright with food and forced myself to drink as much water as I could ingest. In the 2 months since we have been home I have been much more disciplined with food. I was using MyFitnessPal (they have a great website and phone app) for awhile to get myself back into better habits and choices until I felt confident about doing it on my own.
I know how discouraging this journey can be. You think about those moments in high school and college when you thought you were just a little too pudgy. Now you look at those pictures and realize it’s the skinniest you’ll ever be. And you hear your husband tell you how beautiful you are and you want to punch him in the face. The thing is, I am convinced God has given men the gift to recognize beauty regardless of shape or size. We are so critical of ourselves and need to learn to trust our men.
Today, in this moment, I am deciding to choose to be disciplined in exercising more often than my 2-4 walks a week. I am deciding to be thankful that I am as healthy as I am while I am working towards a healthier goal. I am deciding to not be discouraged when I mess up, but to always get back into the routine.
We can do it, mamas. Just think about how you’ll enjoy playing with your babe when you feel better. Your husband will probably say you are drop dead gorgeous because you’ll be glowing with confidence.
So…here goes nothin’. A photo of me 5 months postpartum. It’s not great. It’s not horrible. It’s enough to make me want to fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes instead of buying a new wardrobe.
Going to start the Couch to 5k program again and keep doing the weights I have been. We’re going to be up at a high altitude for awhile, so even just walking will be an extraordinary workout!
Mamas who have been at this for awhile. What tips can you give us new mamas?