Dear New Mom: The Weight

If you fall into a pond of carp you will be hickied to death. (Ken Davis)

You’ll also get a lot of hickies if you hold Caleb too long; he has this misconception that my chin was created for him to suck on.

Dear New Mom, the above statements are completely unrelated to my letter, but I always feel more comfortable dealing with difficult topics with humor 🙂

New mom, this postpartum wait for the weight to disappear is one of the hardest parts of this mamahood thing. Just as I expected, my body is particularly gifted in growing at the sight of anything tasty and extremely stubborn in returning to it’s “normal” state. I know you hear me on that one. Now that the little man is 5 months old, it’s time to get serious.

For the first 3 months we were in Connecticut, mourning the loss of my dad. I could not handle the stress of developing the discipline needed to get my butt moving (in the dead of New England winter). I did alright with food and forced myself to drink as much water as I could ingest. In the 2 months since we have been home I have been much more disciplined with food. I was using MyFitnessPal (they have a great website and phone app) for awhile to get myself back into better habits and choices until I felt confident about doing it on my own.

I know how discouraging this journey can be. You think about those moments in high school and college when you thought you were just a little too pudgy. Now you look at those pictures and realize it’s the skinniest you’ll ever be. And you hear your husband tell you how beautiful you are and you want to punch him in the face. The thing is, I am convinced God has given men the gift to recognize beauty regardless of shape or size. We are so critical of ourselves and need to learn to trust our men.

Today, in this moment, I am deciding to choose to be disciplined in exercising more often than my 2-4 walks a week. I am deciding to be thankful that I am as healthy as I am while I am working towards a healthier goal. I am deciding to not be discouraged when I mess up, but to always get back into the routine.

We can do it, mamas. Just think about how you’ll enjoy playing with your babe when you feel better. Your husband will probably say you are drop dead gorgeous because you’ll be glowing with confidence.

So…here goes nothin’. A photo of me 5 months postpartum. It’s not great. It’s not horrible. It’s enough to make me want to fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes instead of buying a new wardrobe.


Going to start the Couch to 5k program again and keep doing the weights I have been. We’re going to be up at a high altitude for awhile, so even just walking will be an extraordinary workout!

Mamas who have been at this for awhile. What tips can you give us new mamas?

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  1. Sal on April 4, 2013 at 4:09 pm

    You look great Becky! Keep up the progress ^_^

  2. Jessica on April 4, 2013 at 4:18 pm

    I love something I just read from The Happiness Project Newsletter. “Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good.” She comments, don’t let the fact that we may never run a marathon keep us from walking 15 minutes. I love that. Our small (and really big) efforts count! Go you for being disciplined and looking great.

    • Amy on April 4, 2013 at 4:43 pm

      Don’t feel so bad. I am still trying to lose all the weight from 6 years ago. I have been one happy mama and that is all that matters…Enjoy that handsome little guy and the rest will fall into place.

  3. Roselyn on April 4, 2013 at 5:58 pm

    Get pregnant again and blame it on the new baby 😛

  4. Kathy on April 4, 2013 at 6:52 pm

    sounds like you have a really good attitude about it already! that’s half the battle right there! Recognizing that there will be times you mess up or just simply want to splurge because you just want to is good too. You can DO this, you are strong and healthy and able!! Cheering for you from CT!!! =)

  5. Jackie M. on April 4, 2013 at 7:06 pm

    I totally know what you’re going through! It is NOT easy to lose all of the weight. Some comes off quickly, and the rest just lingers. Robin Kerwin (the Tollgate preschool teacher,) spoke @ MOMS last year. She said that being healthy is 80-90% what you eat, (I can’t remember the exact #) and the rest is exercise. I always used to rely on exercise to maintain my weight, but that is just impossible when you have little ones! I did weight watchers after my 1st pregnancy and am doing it again. I started mid-January and am down 16 pounds. You can eat a diverse diet and can save points for junk food-I still eat ice cream almost every night! They take into account breastfeeding; it is a safe and successful way to lose weight when your nursing. I like Roselyn’s comment, but for myself, I tried to get close to my pre-preggo weight before conceiving again. If I keep 5-10 lbs w/ each pregnancy, it’s going to be a lot harder to lose it down the road. After pregnancy our body changes so much, some things won’t ever be like they were before. I just try to be thankful that I have children even if they made my butt permanently wider!

  6. Ann M on April 7, 2013 at 7:37 pm

    Hey, Becky! Reading your post made me think back to when I caught sight of myself in room with mirrors after having Susanna. I held onto baby weight from Daniel then added weight with Susanna…very discouraging but started walking with a double stroller up and down hills and began to notice a difference over time. I think I had a hard time losing weight while nursing because I was always hungry! 🙂

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