Did You Forget? Nothing Is Wasted

Did You Forget? Nothing is Wasted | BeckyLMcCoy.com

I had the privilege of spending the last several days at She Speaks. It’s a conference for women who have a message and it was an incredible honor to be surrounded by so many passionate communicators.

This was my first writer’s conference and it was a struggle to even go, claiming the title “writer”. I love crafting and sharing words, but does that really make me a writer?! Or am I just a mom who writes? Business cards and book proposal in hand, I chose the “fake it” method and found myself owning the label more than I had anticipated.

There were even moments when I had other women running up to me to introduce themselves because they recognized me. What the what?! To say I was out of my comfort zone would be a gross understatement. I almost threw up on the way to the airport, I was so nervous.

And yet, I can say with certainty that I left She Speaks a more confident, brave, and encouraged version of myself. Instead of seeing all the ways I can’t write and speak and encourage people to live more bravely, I’m aware that I have unique strengths and passions that have led me to this place. Never in my life would I have thought that I would be pitching and writing a book. My book may or may not become a reality because of this weekend, but regardless of the outcome, I took the risk to pitch my book. High school Becky’s brain is exploding.

By and far, the most remarkable moment of the weekend was standing in the buffet line with my new friend Brooke and all of a sudden, it’s as if I could almost hear God saying, “can you not see that the pain and struggle of the last 10-11 years has been to get your heart in the right place for this very weekend?” I woke up Sunday morning with Jason Grey’s song “Nothing is Wasted” on repeat in my head:

Did You Forget? Nothing is Wasted | BeckyLMcCoy.com

Nothing is wasted.

Not the widowhood.

Not the heartache.

Not the anxiety.

Not the anger.

Not the confusion.

Not the disappointment.

None of it is wasted.

Who would I be without all of that? I’m not quite sure, but I know for sure that I wouldn’t be as brave.

What is it in your life that makes you bitter or wish you could do without? Consider this a giant hug from me reminding you that none of it is wasted. Maybe you can’t see its purpose, but it’s not for nothing.

And the next time I find myself questioning the hard or running from the struggle, you can hold my hands and ask me, “did you forget? Nothing is wasted.”

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  1. Shauna Wallace on July 25, 2016 at 8:52 pm

    Becky, it was such a delight to meet and get to know you! You are brave and I look forward to cheering you on this journey! You are so right – nothing is wasted. And even in our grief, the Lord will bless and comfort and bring into our lives a joy inexplicable — not instead of, but alongside. That’s what I discovered when my mom suddenly died years ago. It was grief beyond what I knew I could endure, but God went deeper than the grief. He became tangibly real. And through the grief, He brought blessings I never could have even known to ask for or imagine. Never would I ask to lose my mom so that I could experience those things, but as you say: nothing is wasted. So excited for you! Blessings!

    • Becky L McCoy on July 25, 2016 at 9:02 pm

      Thanks, friend! Thankful to have you on the journey with me.

  2. Brooke turner on July 25, 2016 at 10:30 pm

    I love your beautiful heart, Becky.

  3. Kim on July 26, 2016 at 9:21 am

    I love that God spoke to you with his loving reassurance….I am so excited for what He has done for you and what is to come!!
    Love you,

  4. Melissa on July 26, 2016 at 8:05 pm

    I love this. Very encouraging and powerful that nothing is wasted.

  5. Lisa Appelo on July 26, 2016 at 8:12 pm

    Beautiful words, Becky. So grateful that God brings beauty from pain. She Speaks is an amazing conference!

    • Becky L McCoy on July 27, 2016 at 9:43 am

      Lisa, oh my word yes it is! I’m so glad I went!

  6. welcomesue on July 27, 2016 at 12:31 am

    Great post, becky – i wouldn’t have guessed any insecurity as I walked up to you in the airport (thanks for figuring out the uber for us!) – and grateful to our great God for getting us there and through that blessed conference. May you not forget all you learned to give you strength for days ahead.

  7. Lauren Gaskill on July 27, 2016 at 10:22 am

    “Can you not see that the pain and struggle of the last 10-11 years has been to get your heart in the right place for this very weekend?” Oh dear sister, this is exactly how I felt! So sad we couldn’t connect in person. Maybe next year! (God willing I can afford to go. LOL)

    • Becky L McCoy on July 27, 2016 at 2:15 pm

      I know! As far as I’m in control, I’ll be there!

  8. Cindy Bultema (@CindyBultema) on July 27, 2016 at 2:57 pm

    Becky, thank you for sharing with such authenticity and bravery! Now I am curious to read more of your story and see how God has carried you through your difficult seasons. Do you have a link to your journey (until your book is released — smile!) May God bear much fruit from the many seeds planted at She Speaks!
    Sweet blessings, Cindy 🙂

    • Becky L McCoy on July 27, 2016 at 3:56 pm

      Thanks, Cindy! Here’s to hoping someone from this weekend picks up the book 🙂 My story is at BeckyLMcCoy.com/about

  9. justplainbeth on July 29, 2016 at 2:18 pm

    Oh, I needed this reminder today Becky. Thank you for being brave enough to share it. <3

  10. Teri Schultz on July 30, 2016 at 6:44 pm

    I appreciated the honesty in your post, Becky. I can see you have a story to tell that will help so many others who have experienced the same thing. “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” II Corinthians 1:3-4. I’m excited to read more from you!

  11. Lorrena on August 8, 2016 at 7:43 pm

    Wow what an amazing post!
    Thank you for the sharing that nothing is wasted. So glad the Lord gave you that message.
    Very encouraging!


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