Sharing My Grief (& Memorial Service Info)

It has been almost exactly two weeks to the hour of when Keith went to heaven. It feels like years and mere minutes all at the same time. I wanted to let you know that I am still an open book. I feel like it is important to share my story and how I am grieving through each day.

There is no question to large or small or outrageous that I am not willing to answer. I realize that I am in a unique position of being the center point of grieving Keith’s loss and if you need a glimpse into what I am dealing with, I’m happy to give it. I refuse to be selfish with my story.

As I process my grief, I am sharing my thoughts in a few ways that I’d like to invite you to join in the conversation:

  • Blogging: I have a lot to say, so I promise to keep writing and sharing my journey here on the blog. You can sign up to receive updates via your email or in an RSS feed reader.
  • Facebook: I don’t love Facebook, but it seems to be a wonderful way to share thoughts and have conversations with people around the world. Follow my journey at More Grace, More Peace, More Joy
  • Twitter: I post random thoughts, verses, and songs over on Twitter (@ourlifein4bags)
  • #moregracemorepeacemorejoy: On any social media, I’ll add that hashtag to my posts so you can use it to share your journey, too.

I’ll write more soon about my thoughts on grieving and someone’s greatest needs while grieving, but for now, here are a few things to think about:

  • Grief is universal and communal; we all grieve in personal and individual ways, but we all need each other to get through to the other side of the grief as well
  • Grief is unavoidable; if you try and ignore grief, it will not go away. The grief will never go away until you deal with it.
  • Trust when people tell you what they do and don’t need; some people aren’t sure of what their needs are, so if they say, “I don’t know,” they truly don’t. If they say they do or don’t need something specific, respect their request!

Keith’s Memorial Service Information:

There will be two opportunities to celebrate Keith’s life. Both are open to all who would like to attend.

Celebration of Life In Maryland
Sunday, January 25th, 4-6pm
New Life Weslyan Church, 9690 Shepherds Creek Place, La Plata, MD 20646

There will be no formal service, but a time to share stories and memories together. Please bring a pint of ice cream to celebrate Keith’s life in a way he would have loved (bowls, spoons, and toppings will be provided). Military personnel please dress in casual civilian attire.

Memorial Service in Connecticut
Saturday, February 28th, 11am
Groton Bible Chapel, 66 Toll Gate Rd, Groton, CT 06340

A formal memorial service to commemorate Keith’s life with a luncheon to follow at the church. Military personnel please dress in civilian attire.

(If you are looking for ways to make donations in Keith’s name, please see the journal entry entitled “Ways to Encourage and Help Us“)

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  1. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser on January 19, 2015 at 1:39 pm

    Becky, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. There are no words, but I hope that the feeling in my heart reaches you in some way.

    Your courage is amazing.

    • Becky M on January 19, 2015 at 6:30 pm

      Thanks Andrew.

  2. Margaret Twitty on January 19, 2015 at 7:43 pm

    Hey Becky mom and I will be attending the GBC one and we’ll definitly be bringing the ice cream! Love you guys ?

    • Becky M on January 19, 2015 at 7:59 pm

      Thanks Margaret. No ice cream needed for the CT one, but I know they will need help for the luncheon!

      • Margaret Twitty on January 19, 2015 at 8:01 pm

        Thanks for letting me know. Will some of the food be Gluten-Free cause mom and i can only eat that.

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