Death

2017: The Year of No Expectations

My new year doesn’t start on January 1st, but several days later on January 5th. On January 5th, my life changed forever and it seems easier to mark the passing years and measure the change that has happened based on the day my husband died, rather than when the calendar flips. I find myself stuck…

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Book Review: And It Was Beautiful by Kara Tippetts

I discovered Kara Tippetts when Keith was sick. Kara lost her battle to breast cancer just over two months after Keith passed away. I was drawn to her words as she was able to describe exactly what it was like to be facing death while trying to raise a family. Her blog helped me to…

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Solidarity In Grief: How to Help During Crisis and Tragedy

After the bombing in Beirut and attacks in Paris last week, my heart was so heavy. I’ve experienced the deep pain of losing someone, but my loss was personal, only one loss at a time, and never because of someone’s deliberate actions. I ache for those wading through the first days of grief while still…

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Sharing My Grief (& Memorial Service Info)

It has been almost exactly two weeks to the hour of when Keith went to heaven. It feels like years and mere minutes all at the same time. I wanted to let you know that I am still an open book. I feel like it is important to share my story and how I am…

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Dear Keith: 33

Dear Keith, It’s a blessing and a curse that the first of your birthdays that we celebrate without you has come so quickly. You haven’t been in heaven a week and we are already faced with a milestone day. As I’ve learned in grieving the loss of my dad, the anticipation of the day is…

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Bird Sanctuary

At the south end of Long Beach Island, NJ there used to be a huge bird sanctuary. It was at least a mile of untouched beach, populated solely by birds. It was the quietest part of the island and a place of refuge for me. Hurricane Sandy wrecked the bird sanctuary. There’s still some beach…

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Dear Dad: I Miss You

NOTE: This post is kind of erratic. I wrote it a few days ago and have been feeling pretty anal about it not flowing as well as I’d like it to. Yet, this is how it came out of my head and I’m all about sharing my experience authentically. So, here’s the most disorganized post…

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For When It Just Keeps Coming

We all experience different seasons in our lives. The last few years have been one long season of loss. Yesterday, Keith’s grampa passed away, one of our dear friends is still very ill, and another close friend’s dad’s cancer is back with a vengeance. Many of our friends and family are experiencing the loss of…

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Dear Dad: Early Mornings

Dear Dad: We got to spend a night at the lake this week. When I woke up in the morning, there was fog on the lake and the trees were brilliantly colored. I could almost see you out in a kayak, enjoying the silence and peace of the early mornings. Getting up early with Caleb…

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GriefShare

Last night was my first time at the GriefShare meeting our church hosts. Man, I’m so glad I found this program. From the second I walked in the door, I realized I had finally found a place where I feel I can be completely comfortable with my grief. Everyone in the room was grieving and…

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