grief journey

Truths About Grief

Offers to help are still flooding in. Quite often, after a loved one’s death, a few weeks later, it seems as if everyone else has moved on. I’m so thankful for those of you who continue to be in touch and tell me how you are praying for us and sharing your favorite memories of…

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Dear Dad: Another Birthday

Dear Dad, I’ve been hesitating (maybe avoiding) writing you. Over the last two weeks, I’ve had more days than not where I wake up missing you. Or find myself looking forward to going to Connecticut to see you. It’s bizarre that my brain just can not accept that you’re really not here even though it’s…

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Falling Apart Without Losing The Pieces

People are always telling me that they’re impressed at how I’ve been able to hold it together since I lost my dad. I hate to break it to those people, but I have not held it together. Not even close. Two weeks ago, I was up in Connecticut to help mom get the house ready…

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Dear Dad: I Miss You

NOTE: This post is kind of erratic. I wrote it a few days ago and have been feeling pretty anal about it not flowing as well as I’d like it to. Yet, this is how it came out of my head and I’m all about sharing my experience authentically. So, here’s the most disorganized post…

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Sandy

Sandy data from 11/1/12 [source] The one year anniversary of Hurricane Sandy is all over the news. The storm that destroyed the Jersey Shore and continues to impact thousands of people’s lives holds completely different meaning for me. While the East Coast was bracing for a hurricane last October 29th, I was on the West…

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Advice on Grieving

I’ve come to realize something really dangerous about grief: avoidance. It’s worse than denial and much more sneaky. “If I avoid thinking about dad, I won’t be sad anymore.” “If I don’t talk about dad, then I won’t have to think about grief and I can be done with it.” Nope, wrong answer. Grief must…

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Grief Spirals

A friend posted this quote on Facebook this morning and it’s exactly how every grieving person feels, but can never vocalize: “For in grief nothing “stays put.” One keeps on emerging from a phase, but it always recurs. Round and round. Everything repeats. Am I going in circles, or dare I hope I am on…

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Dear Dad: It Takes a Village

Dear Dad: I have been so thankful for all of the friends and family that have surrounded us to encourage and support us in raising Caleb. The best parenting definitely includes a village of helping hands! Over the last six months, I have realized that a village of helpers is equally important in grief. Two…

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Dear Dad: Grief Is A Journey

Dear Dad: We are in Bolivia for another 1.5 weeks and today Caleb and I are stuck at home because of the blockades all around the city. Keith had to walk to work; it’s an insane, long, uphill walk, poor guy! The blockades have been making me think about my grief journey, though. While everyone…

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