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For When Grief Hits You From Out of Nowhere

It’s been almost four years since my husband died. I’m mostly doing great. I still get sad sometimes. Other times I’m disappointed or angry that this is my real life. But, on the whole, life is good. We’ve found new routines and ways of doing things. We feel settled. I skirt the edge of grieving,…

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When You Feel Broken At Christmas

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Everywhere I look, there are signs of a shiny, bright, perfect Christmas. Smiling family photos. Perfectly decorated homes and trees. Happy people enjoying happy friends at happy Christmas parties. Christmas movies that elicit giggles and end in magical first kisses. Cookies and hot cocoa and fires and snow (or at least dreams of it). Sometimes…

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#OnComingAlive

I’m so honored to be part of The On Coming Alive Project. It’s a collection of over 70 voices who have stories of choosing to live after loss. There are stories of lost spouses, siblings, children, and parents. This is a beautiful, heart wrenching collection of honest thoughts on loss, grief, and choosing to live…

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Hope for 2016

A year ago today, my life changed. When you get married, you don’t expect the “to death do us part” vows to be relevant until you’re old. The last year has been a lot of heart ache and even more change. Our family lost Keith and gained Libby. The kids and I moved. I bought…

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Reflections From An Air Force Widow

This post is not meant to upstage anyone who is struggling this Memorial Day due to the loss of a loved one or with PTSD of lost airmen, soldiers, and sailors. This can be a difficult holiday for so many reasons. Memorial Day has crept up and taken me by surprise. I do not presume…

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When Your Heart Feels Scraped Open

When I was in Kindergarten I remember being impressed with the fact that my knees were constantly scraped open. I laugh now thinking about how it was because of my inability to walk anywhere without tripping over myself. Regardless of how I achieved the look, I had scars on my knees until 5th grade. My…

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Why Grief is Hard

The hardest parts of grief usually aren’t the parts you think. It’s the unexpected moments that catch you off guard and leave you speechless. Keith’s birthday was on Sunday. I dreaded that it came within the first week of Keith’s leaving us. I was also thankful that we could “get it over with”. It took…

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Normal Is A Blessing

A few weeks ago, Caleb and I flew up to Connecticut to help Mom through surgery. Her surgery was scheduled for the day after Dad’s birthday and a dear friend ended up passing away two days before. To say we were anticipating a stressful, emotional week would be a generous understatement. We spent Dad’s birthday…

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This IS My Life (Grief & Motherhood)

Ever have those moments when you think you can’t wait til your life gets back to normal? Lately I’ve been dreaming of the days when I’m not coercing a toddler, when I don’t miss dad so much, when I actually wake up feeling rested, when the fridge isn’t empty, when the laundry basket isn’t full,…

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Small Enough

There are a few crazy people out there who actually love winter. The rest of us enjoy a good snowstorm and then start the count down to spring. This winter has had much more of an emotional impact on my than I had imagined. I feel like this season has left me wanting to dig…

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