grief

Why You Never Leave Your Grieving Friend Alone

Why You Never Leave Your Grieving Friend Alone | BeckyLMcCoy.com

“You’ve got so much going on. I didn’t want to burden you with my hard stuff.” “I didn’t want to make you more sad. I try and only share stuff that will cheer you up.” “I wasn’t sure if I should say anything. I hate to bother you.” I’ve heard dozens of versions of those…

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When You Feel Broken At Christmas

When You Feel Broken At Christmas | BeckyLMcCoy.com

Everywhere I look, there are signs of a shiny, bright, perfect Christmas. Smiling family photos. Perfectly decorated homes and trees. Happy people enjoying happy friends at happy Christmas parties. Christmas movies that elicit giggles and end in magical first kisses. Cookies and hot cocoa and fires and snow (or at least dreams of it). Sometimes…

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9 Tips for a Quiet and Simple Holiday Season

Each Christmas season is an exceptional one. It’s another Christmas without Keith. Caleb is always so excited for this season: he runs around wearing his Santa hat and I often find him sitting and staring at the Christmas tree. Libby adores Santa and all of the silly Christmas movies (although, she’s quite offended the Grinch would steal…

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When You Feel Stuck on the Outside of Your Life

A reality of grief and depression is that you often feel stuck outside of your life. Last week, I had a few days where I felt like I was watching my life and not living it. I took deep breaths, trying to ground myself, feeling like I was floating away with nothing to pull me…

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What To Do When You Feel Lost As An Adult

When I was little, my parents and I went to Sesame Place, the Sesame Street theme park. My parents sat on a bench and watched as I played on one of the splash pad play grounds. Every few minutes, I would glance over to make sure they were still there. And they were. Until they…

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Practical Tips for Living With Anxiety: Counseling

It’s been awhile since I shared a practical tip for living with anxiety. While this post falls under the umbrella of anxiety posts, I strongly recommend anyone who has ever survived adolescence spend some time with a counselor (aka all of us). Here are some reasons why counseling is so important and how to find…

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Broken People are Brave People

This post was originally published in January 2014, but when I read it I knew I had to share it again.    Last week, Caleb and I were in the kitchen when I had to leave the room for a quick moment. I heard a loud bang and then silence: the absolute worst combination in…

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Ep. 01 – Becky L McCoy; Anxiety, Depression, & Feeling Unloveable

Becky, the host of Sucker Punched, shares her battle with an anxiety disorder and how grace showed up in relationships with her husband and friends. Becky’s Fun Question Answers: What are you loving right now? ‘Big Magic’ by Elizabeth Gilbert What’s your favorite meal right now? Asian Pear Slaw from Spice Market What are you…

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The Weary World Rejoices: Hope When Christmas is Hard

“…the weary world rejoices…” I recently heard author Paul Tripp call Christmas “the sufferers holiday.” Joseph and Mary were without a home. Herod was about to order the execution of all boys under two years old. The Jewish people were under Roman occupation. The first Christmas did not happen during an easy or happy time….

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Reflections From An Air Force Widow

This post is not meant to upstage anyone who is struggling this Memorial Day due to the loss of a loved one or with PTSD of lost airmen, soldiers, and sailors. This can be a difficult holiday for so many reasons. Memorial Day has crept up and taken me by surprise. I do not presume…

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